Comments on: Is There Anything You Wished You’ve Never Done?

By: Ellesse

Ellesse — Sun, 07 Oct 2007 09:16:36 +0000

Thank you Liosis, for your views. Appreciate it. Yes, you’re right that it’s anyone’s entitlement to decide if they should be ashamed of their past actions. However, I think I need to make a clear distinction of being ashamed and taking positive actions about it versus being ashamed and totally denying it’s as part of your entirety. The latter, in my opinion is just self denial disguised to cover an wound that physically there all the time. Yes, though people on the outside can’t see the wound and the person afflicted with it can imagine it’s not there at all, the pain is there. It hurts. Attempting to forget about it is a seemingly good solution, but it wouldn’t make the pain go away. And it’s only when you squarely confront it, apply ointment on it that it will recover. Even when it leaves a scar on your perfect body, there will be no pain. Instead, it’s a trophy of you winning a tremendous victory.

Naturally, this is a choice.

A choice between living with your imperfection. Or winning over them.

By: Liosis

Liosis — Sat, 06 Oct 2007 21:46:28 +0000

You know it is bloody hard to do that right? And what in the world is wrong with being ashamed of things that have happened to you? I know myself that I judge people based on how I myself have matured or achieved, I hold myself as the lowest rung and expect anyone else (especially those older than me) to do better. But we cannot expect this of people, and if someone feels like they should deny something that is their right. If they have learned through hard experience that what they do is considered shameful than it will take a great deal for them to stand up to it, and what in the world would the point be to stand up to the prejudice of someone you have never met?

Not that I don’t agree with the fact that you should be honest, that you should accept your failings, and so on. But it isn’t something everyone can do, and if they feel like they have to it will make them even worse off than before.

By: Ellesse

Ellesse — Sun, 26 Aug 2007 05:11:09 +0000

Hey Priscilla, thanks for including me in the list. Most of my fave personal development sites are already in your list but I’ll not hesitate to participate when I come any!

By: Priscilla Palmer

Priscilla Palmer — Sat, 25 Aug 2007 15:57:19 +0000

You have been tagged for The Personal Development List. (See my site for details), I would love for you to participate.

By: Ellesse

Ellesse — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 03:30:51 +0000

Pat, it’s my pleasure to introduce your site. By the way, I’ve sent you a separate email

By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker

Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 02:33:36 +0000

Ellesse, thanks for the words of kindness. They couldn’t have come at a better time. Your words have brought tears to my eyes. Yesterday, one of my readers came directly to my personal email rather than leaving 2 comments on my blog. I am thankful for that. I will call this person a man but I don’t know because he says he used an email, not his own and a name, not his own. The comments were an attack, at least I took them that way. I won’t share his comments but they have affected me. I didn’t sleep much last night. Surprisingly, it wasn’t my series on incest, but my “religion” that he has a problem with. I answered the first email. I will not answer the second. I know that there are people out there and they have easy access to our blogs on the internet but this is the first time that I have been a target. I will get over it. Thanks for your compassion. It truly helps. And thanks for sending your readers my way.

By: Ellesse

Ellesse — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 02:21:05 +0000

Hey Pat, you’re a true fighter! It takes immense courage to face the past that you’ve been through and use that as the strength to move forward. Not only have you tread out of it, you blossomed into such a wonderful personality (yes, I know!) and even used your experience to help others.

I know it’s not easy as I’ve been through similar events such as making the wrong decision on my pre-university application. So, you’ve got my utmost admiration!

P.S. Goal Setting College readers, if you’re interested to read about a excellent blog on spirituality, you’ve definitely need to catch Pat’s at patriciasingleton.blogspot.com. Good stuff!

By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker

Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 16:35:40 +0000

Ellesse, this is a great article and I agree with it 100%. The only thing that I regret about my pass is when I have been careless with my choice of words and hurt someone else. Even then, I take responsibility and choose to learn from the experience.

A visitor to my blog recently, out of his feelings of compassion, told me that he was sorry for happened to me as a child. I told him that I am not sorry for the incest. I have taken my experiences and used them to become the strong, caring wonderful woman that I am today who chooses to reach out to others with love and compassion. Thanks for your article.