Comments on: Why It’s Important To Know Who You’re Sharing Your Goals With http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/share-announce-your-goals/ Goal Setting, Success & Motivation Articles & Resources Sun, 28 Feb 2010 19:54:46 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 By: Ellesse Chow http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/share-announce-your-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-27264 Ellesse Chow Fri, 02 May 2008 00:21:08 +0000 http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/why-its-important-to-know-who-youre-sharing-your-goals-with/#comment-27264 <b>@Wajid</b> Haha, I didn't know about that story. It's just that from my personal experience and from so many literature I've read from the "gurus" that affirms this. Regardless of whether that's the right way to approach things, you'll still have to bear in mind the importance of action and persistence. Persevere! You can do it! @Wajid Haha, I didn’t know about that story. It’s just that from my personal experience and from so many literature I’ve read from the “gurus” that affirms this. Regardless of whether that’s the right way to approach things, you’ll still have to bear in mind the importance of action and persistence.

Persevere! You can do it!

]]> By: Wajid Unar http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/share-announce-your-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-27254 Wajid Unar Mon, 28 Apr 2008 23:26:30 +0000 http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/why-its-important-to-know-who-youre-sharing-your-goals-with/#comment-27254 Great advice. Thanks! By reading what you have just prescribed, I remember a story written by Paulo (you already would have gone through it) "Manual for Climbing Mountains" by Paulo Cohelo: http://www.sminkworks.com/authors/Warrior/manual-climbing-mountains.htm The final essence of what you have prescribed, and what Paulo's story concludes, these can be taken as a real good guide for forming one goal, keeping it up to oneself or to share it on the right time with the right people, and just 'keep going' until we have reached our mountain or say we have achieved our targets/goals :) Great advice. Thanks!
By reading what you have just prescribed, I remember a story written by Paulo (you already would have gone through it)
“Manual for Climbing Mountains” by Paulo Cohelo:
http://www.sminkworks.com/authors/Warrior/manual-climbing-mountains.htm

The final essence of what you have prescribed, and what Paulo’s story concludes, these can be taken as a real good guide for forming one goal, keeping it up to oneself or to share it on the right time with the right people, and just ‘keep going’ until we have reached our mountain or say we have achieved our targets/goals :)

]]> By: Ellesse Chow http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/share-announce-your-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-27251 Ellesse Chow Mon, 28 Apr 2008 01:51:29 +0000 http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/why-its-important-to-know-who-youre-sharing-your-goals-with/#comment-27251 <b>@Wajid</b> I believe that's the human mind's way of seeking affirmation. We tend to seek advice and assurance that our actions or ideas are right and validated from people around us. It's a way to reaffirm our belief that our plans work. Be aware there's nothing wrong with that but sharing with the wrong people just deflate your confidence even before you get started The question becomes, who should you tell? My advice would be to <ul><li>Keep the goal to yourself when it's still in its infancy</li> <li>Read up on - & if possible, speak to - people who've done it to build up that belief that it CAN be done</li> <li>Visualize yourself doing it in a mental movie, Vision Board, a future letter to yourself</li> <li>Take part in a Mastermind group, if you can (that's when you start sharing your goals). If you don't have such a group, consider whether there's a need to tell at all. I know of some people who've never told their goals to anyone and when they achieved it, their friends were so shocked. If you really need to get it off your chest and seek some accountability, share with your closest family members or friends. Well, what's the litmus test? People whom you know will not laugh at you when you told them an audacious goal eg, going to be a movie star or earn a million dollars by <i>XXX</i> year. If you know they wouldn't be able to accept that, chances are, you may not be able to get the support for your seemingly challenging goals too</li> <li>Act on it and review on every feedback you get</li> <li>Keep doing it until you get the results you wanted!</li></ul> @Wajid I believe that’s the human mind’s way of seeking affirmation. We tend to seek advice and assurance that our actions or ideas are right and validated from people around us. It’s a way to reaffirm our belief that our plans work. Be aware there’s nothing wrong with that but sharing with the wrong people just deflate your confidence even before you get started

The question becomes, who should you tell? My advice would be to

  • Keep the goal to yourself when it’s still in its infancy
  • Read up on – & if possible, speak to – people who’ve done it to build up that belief that it CAN be done
  • Visualize yourself doing it in a mental movie, Vision Board, a future letter to yourself
  • Take part in a Mastermind group, if you can (that’s when you start sharing your goals). If you don’t have such a group, consider whether there’s a need to tell at all. I know of some people who’ve never told their goals to anyone and when they achieved it, their friends were so shocked. If you really need to get it off your chest and seek some accountability, share with your closest family members or friends. Well, what’s the litmus test? People whom you know will not laugh at you when you told them an audacious goal eg, going to be a movie star or earn a million dollars by XXX year. If you know they wouldn’t be able to accept that, chances are, you may not be able to get the support for your seemingly challenging goals too
  • Act on it and review on every feedback you get
  • Keep doing it until you get the results you wanted!
]]> By: Wajid Unar http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/share-announce-your-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-27246 Wajid Unar Sun, 27 Apr 2008 14:50:18 +0000 http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/why-its-important-to-know-who-youre-sharing-your-goals-with/#comment-27246 Quite true Ellesse, beside discussing what they can understand often increases your knowledge and gives you a confidence, my performance was highly increased when I discussed my understanding over various techniques of Software Engineering... But now I would keep mum for my own plans ;) (would try :P) Quite true Ellesse, beside discussing what they can understand often increases your knowledge and gives you a confidence, my performance was highly increased when I discussed my understanding over various techniques of Software Engineering… But now I would keep mum for my own plans ;) (would try :P )

]]> By: Ellesse Chow http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/share-announce-your-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-27238 Ellesse Chow Sat, 26 Apr 2008 14:48:18 +0000 http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/why-its-important-to-know-who-youre-sharing-your-goals-with/#comment-27238 <b>@Wajid</b>, I can understand EXACTLY how you're feeling. When I first graduated from University, I was full of aspirations and drive, and often discuss my career plans with my friends. It's often fruitful if what you're talking about is in alignment with what they're expecting... for example, when I was still doing audit, elaborating over the banes of the profession often resonate with them. BUT if you're saying something that's slightly out of the ordinary, like starting your own business or switching into a profession they've totally unexpected, such skeptism seems to be the norm. That's my observation. And so far, it's quite true for me... @Wajid, I can understand EXACTLY how you’re feeling. When I first graduated from University, I was full of aspirations and drive, and often discuss my career plans with my friends. It’s often fruitful if what you’re talking about is in alignment with what they’re expecting… for example, when I was still doing audit, elaborating over the banes of the profession often resonate with them.

BUT if you’re saying something that’s slightly out of the ordinary, like starting your own business or switching into a profession they’ve totally unexpected, such skeptism seems to be the norm.

That’s my observation. And so far, it’s quite true for me…

]]> By: Wajid Unar http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/share-announce-your-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-27237 Wajid Unar Sat, 26 Apr 2008 11:21:50 +0000 http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/why-its-important-to-know-who-youre-sharing-your-goals-with/#comment-27237 Hm.. interesting, would have to think about it seriously....! I have seen people who keep mum even when there is lots to share about future plans etc, I recently graduated, I do discuss my plans... but you are right, I have seen people doing more if they keep mum.. Thanks for the advice. Hm.. interesting, would have to think about it seriously….! I have seen people who keep mum even when there is lots to share about future plans etc, I recently graduated, I do discuss my plans… but you are right, I have seen people doing more if they keep mum..
Thanks for the advice.

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]]> By: Ellesse Chow http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/share-announce-your-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-27170 Ellesse Chow Thu, 03 Apr 2008 02:47:38 +0000 http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/why-its-important-to-know-who-youre-sharing-your-goals-with/#comment-27170 <b>@Alex</b> Haha, what a nice analogy you've used. The teeth either bites. Or helps you grit through the challenges ahead! <b>@Gamy</b>, thanks for affirming some of my concerns. I totally agree with you. Much as we would try to disassociate with a lot of those unsupportive people, sometimes, we just couldn't. For example, it could be a close family member we see everyday. At the end of the day, we must realize that while knowing who we should announce our goals to, it's also critically important for us to continue to hone our self belief. Because only then can we really mitigate the effects of such naysayings. I'm still working hard! <b>@Tim</b> Glad to have you around! Been hearing so much about you on the blogosphere... I totally agree on the self esteem part. And I admit I do have that kind of insecurity when I first started out too... It's those kind of situation when you hinges between the "status quo" or "go for it" borders. Even when you've decided to just go for it, there will be times when this esteem & self doubt thingy just comes back to haunt you. Especially when you're facing challenges in the decision you've made. Instead of lying to yourself that it doesn't exists, the best way in my opinion is to continue to build up this self confidence as you go along. Celebrate whatever little success you've and strengthen your fundamental faith. Like what I mention to Gamy, I'm still working hard on that... :) <b>@Lexi</b> thanks for sharing your little story! I like the way you mentioned it, "... afraid of stepping into their own power..." It's so true. Everyone has the potential and power to break through this seemingly vicious cycle. All it takes is a decision. A decision to just say "Yes, I'll go for it!" @Alex Haha, what a nice analogy you’ve used. The teeth either bites. Or helps you grit through the challenges ahead!

@Gamy, thanks for affirming some of my concerns. I totally agree with you. Much as we would try to disassociate with a lot of those unsupportive people, sometimes, we just couldn’t. For example, it could be a close family member we see everyday. At the end of the day, we must realize that while knowing who we should announce our goals to, it’s also critically important for us to continue to hone our self belief. Because only then can we really mitigate the effects of such naysayings. I’m still working hard!

@Tim Glad to have you around! Been hearing so much about you on the blogosphere… I totally agree on the self esteem part. And I admit I do have that kind of insecurity when I first started out too… It’s those kind of situation when you hinges between the “status quo” or “go for it” borders.

Even when you’ve decided to just go for it, there will be times when this esteem & self doubt thingy just comes back to haunt you. Especially when you’re facing challenges in the decision you’ve made. Instead of lying to yourself that it doesn’t exists, the best way in my opinion is to continue to build up this self confidence as you go along. Celebrate whatever little success you’ve and strengthen your fundamental faith.

Like what I mention to Gamy, I’m still working hard on that… :)

@Lexi thanks for sharing your little story! I like the way you mentioned it, “… afraid of stepping into their own power…” It’s so true. Everyone has the potential and power to break through this seemingly vicious cycle. All it takes is a decision.

A decision to just say “Yes, I’ll go for it!”

]]> By: Lexi of Creative Energies http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/share-announce-your-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-27168 Lexi of Creative Energies Wed, 02 Apr 2008 18:40:43 +0000 http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/why-its-important-to-know-who-youre-sharing-your-goals-with/#comment-27168 People are often more afraid of stepping into their own power than remaining powerless. And I agree these people do not want to see examples that challenge their own choice. My husband and I have been running into that lately and I just wrote a post called "Are You Trapped in a Brain Closet?" discussing the experience. In our case it deals more with what we have done than what we plan to do, but it is distinctly the same pattern you discuss in this excellent article. People are often more afraid of stepping into their own power than remaining powerless. And I agree these people do not want to see examples that challenge their own choice.

My husband and I have been running into that lately and I just wrote a post called “Are You Trapped in a Brain Closet?” discussing the experience. In our case it deals more with what we have done than what we plan to do, but it is distinctly the same pattern you discuss in this excellent article.

]]> By: Tim Brownson http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/share-announce-your-goals/comment-page-1/#comment-27167 Tim Brownson Wed, 02 Apr 2008 16:31:29 +0000 http://www.goal-setting-college.com/goal-setting/why-its-important-to-know-who-youre-sharing-your-goals-with/#comment-27167 Ellesse, great article, I agree with Andrea on why people like to see others fail. There is indeed the ego stroking bit because they were proved right, but it confirms their belief that they don't need to change either. People can feel inadequate when family and friends succeed and they are left right where they are. If nobody changes the staus quo is preserved and the pressure for them to step outside their comfort zone is removed, albeit temporarily. These type sof people usually have fairly low self-esteem. Ellesse, great article,

I agree with Andrea on why people like to see others fail. There is indeed the ego stroking bit because they were proved right, but it confirms their belief that they don’t need to change either. People can feel inadequate when family and friends succeed and they are left right where they are. If nobody changes the staus quo is preserved and the pressure for them to step outside their comfort zone is removed, albeit temporarily. These type sof people usually have fairly low self-esteem.

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