How To Make Your New Year’s Resolutions Work This Time
It’s that time of the year isn’t it?
You know, when everyone starts asking everyone the same old question. About setting your new year resolutions? Seriously, I can’t recall when was the last time I actually worked on a “resolution”. But based on what I’ve seen and heard, new years’ resolutions don’t seem to have a good reputation. People believe and expect them not to work. Yet year on year, they continue to set it in December, hardly remember it by January next year and totally forget about it 6 months later.
So, what’s this jinx with new year’s resolutions and how can you make them a success this time, especially if you’ve been struggling with them every year?
Let me share with you what I think.
Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Seem To Work
Imagine being at a year end party when someone walk up to you to make small chat. “So, what’s your resolution for next year?”. Not to be seen as someone who’ve never thought about such a lofty question, you casually utter “Oh errrh, I’m planning to make a career switch into another industry.”
You spend the next half an hour justifying why you made that resolution and air your thoughts on how the bad economy is making it difficult for you to “realize” your dream the year before. After the party, you go home tipsy, and knock off to bed, cleanly forgotten all about that inspirational speech you’ve just made to the nice stranger.
You see what I mean?
People seldom deal with their new year’s resolutions seriously. At least, not serious enough for them to sit down, take a pen and a piece of paper to write them down. It was not even worth the effort for them to elaborate into a detailed blueprint for action. Most importantly, they’re often made in a spur of the moment, without any serious consideration of what’s the burning desire driving them. In their eyes, new year resolutions are just tools. Tools to somewhat sensationalize their foray into the new year, making it seemingly full of aspirations and hope.
When you fail to plan, you plan to fail. How can you expect to achieve your new years’ resolutions when that’s the attitude you behold? It’s not the new year resolutions that aren’t working. It’s your mentality. Ask yourself, what’s your purpose in setting new year’s resolutions? To take you towards a particular direction? Away from some undesirable destination? Portray you’re someone with ambitions? Or just to fill up that empty void stemming from dissatisfaction due to your reluctance to commit?
3 Steps to Make Your New Year’s Resolutions Work
Even though statistics show that 97% of New Year’s resolutions made every year don’t get kept, personally, I think there’s still ways to get around it. Here’s are 3 steps that will definitely increase your chances of success :
(1) Defroze Your Negative Legacy
Do you know what degrades the performance of a manual defrost refrigerator? When they’re clogged with frost. In a way, your unfavourable impressions of new year resolutions are the frost that gets accumulated over time. The limited success with your previous resolutions gear you into thinking you’re likely to fail with your new ones. The only reason which kept you going is the shimmer of hope that maybe “this year will be different”.
It’s just like reading fairy tales. We know for a fact that they don’t exist in reality but still kept on reading to fulfill our desire for a “miracle” to descend upon us. Sadly, that’s not just the way people handle their new year’s resolutions. They do that with other goals they set throughout the year as well!
If you allow these negative legacy to accumulate in your mind, no matter how many new year’s resolutions you make, you’re likely to set yourself for failure. Not because you can’t do it. But because your mind thinks you can’t. So, before you even proceed with the rest of the steps, it’s imperative that you clear those dysfunctional thoughts using Dr Len’s simple approach. Here’s the script you can try using :
“I’m sorry if my negative legacy is preventing me from moving ahead. I know I absolutely possess the right attitude, mindset and vigour to fight for whatever that I’ve wanted in my life. And please forgive me if I’ve ever thought even for a split second that I’m not capable of accomplishing my new year’s resolutions. Thank you for making me realize this. I love you”.
Go through it every night as you lie on the bed. Or incorporate it with your daily prayers or chanting. And try for at least a week. Trust me, you’ll soon experience a light headed feeling towards your resolutions. Not because they seem easier now. But because, something in you changed.
(2) Setup Your New Year Resolutions The SMART Way
Imagine you’re driving the car in a dark foggy night. Can you see where you’re going? How do you know when you’re there? I know this is common sense when it comes to getting around a place or destination. But isn’t the same with your new year’s resolutions? Or other goals? You need to know exactly what you want. Particularly so when the road ahead seems so fuzzy or bleak.
I know this is going to sound cliché but why would people plan their travel itineraries or wedding but take it lightly when it comes to their own life plan? Do you have any friends who would spend hours scouring the Internet designing their travel itinerary – plan contingency routes “just in case” bad weather foil their original one – but when asked what they intends to do for their coming year’s resolution, just shrug it off and says “I’ll see what it comes.”?
I certainly do.
You must have a plan. And to help you with this process of getting from point A to Z , I’ll recommend that you go through the exclusive Goal Setting Tutorial, free with your subscription to Goal Setting College. It contains detailed instructions and worksheets on how you can brainstorm your resolutions or goals, write it down using SMART techniques, plan out all the relevant sub tasks and track using a free online tool. There are also tips to motivate yourself using some online resources. So, download it and try it out!
(3) Repeat Again Next Year!
Once you’ve managed to achieve at least one of your resolutions, you know you’re on the right track. All you have to do now is to keep on repeating what you’ve done. Easy?
And as you do so, I assure you. Your life will literally change. Because this time, you’ve plunged in with a different game plan.
A plan to win.